Sometimes I wonder if it is really a good thing to segregate boys and girls!
I have known individuals who have grown up in this environment, not knowing how to interact with or deal with the opposite gender! From very basic etiquettes to relationships, they don't know how to handle anything! It is at times very obvious that these individuals have no clue how to deal with situations or what to say or do that would resolve issues/opinions!
I have also dealt with males who are so stubborn about "their way" or doing things that they cannot imagine changing their ways of doing things!
In my humble opinion, yes I agree that there needs to be a lot of control in dealing with the opposite gender, but that does not necessarily mean you segregate the genders and that way one does not need to handle anything!
In today's society, especially living in the western countries, it is extremely difficult to explain certain things to children when inquiring about their curiosities regarding the opposite genders. It is a natural human instinct to be curious about something you are stopped from! But I believe our approach in Islamic cultures is a bit drastic. A child needs to know mannerisms and etiquettes of dealing with the opposite gender. This means they need to be taught how to dress, how to speak, what to say and what is not a good thing to say etc. It is the same as any mannerisms we learn since childhood.
We learn to eat and the proper way to eat or keep clean don't we? Then why can't dealing with the opposite gender be a mannerism taught to our kids? There are does and dont's in everything we do in life -- it is a matter of balance and timing I believe.
What do you all think?
Any views? Ideas? Opinions?
Any Islamic references or events that depict gender segregation is recommended? not recommended?
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